This is hard
Posted 11 February 2012 - 10:41 PM
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Posted 12 February 2012 - 08:58 AM
You will get through this! I can remember being so tired, so emotional and so stressed out those early weeks. I don't know how many teary phone calls I made to my mother saying, "I can't do this. I'm a terrible Mom and I don't know what to do with one, let alone two." When my parents would come over to help out, I would cry when they left. It was rough. But I did find my stride, the kids and I got into a good routine and things got better each day.
Don't be afraid to ask others for help! It was a lifeline for me in those early days.
Posted 12 February 2012 - 09:28 AM
This post has been edited by mama23boys: 12 February 2012 - 09:29 AM
Posted 13 February 2012 - 08:05 AM
I know a couple of people that have had twins and I have tried to reach out to them and all I really get is "it will get easier" and the local MOM's club is not very inviting either. Thanks for the help people... :(
Nothing like feeling alone.
Allison & Tori faternal twins born 1-19-12 @ 35w 3d; both healthy and happy with no NICU time!
Blessed with Twins twice by chance...3 great children with us and one angel looking down.
Posted 13 February 2012 - 09:00 AM
Posted 13 February 2012 - 09:04 AM
I know it sounds like a platitude, but it really and truly does get easier. I promise.
To the OP and everybody else, it can be incredibly hard to see that relief will come during the first months, try to hang in there. For me, a schedule really helped. Having times during the day that the girls were fed or that they napped really helped me get through the exhaustion. As much as my OCD tendencies made me want to clean my house or do laundry while my girls slept, I learned to give it up and just go to sleep myself.
Ask for help! Ask your spouse to do very specific things to help you, call in friends and family to relieve you for an hour or so. I sometimes found myself wandering Target for an hour just to get away.
Also, the sooner you're comfortable leaving the house with the babies, the better. We would load up for walks around the neighborhood, through the mall, etc. and it really helped me feel less isolated. There were a few times that I sat down in the middle of the food court and fed and changed two babies. :)
You can do it! It gets easier, it gets fun, and it's very rewarding. Please come on here for any questions or support you need. Come vent away! That's what we're here for!
"It's harder to talk about how crazy in love you are with your kids than playing along with the narrative that parenting is terribly hard. If you decide you want kids, don't do it expecting happiness or exhaustion or perfection or anything at all. Do it expecting your life to be ripped wide open and to keep expanding."-The Rollergiraffe
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Posted 13 February 2012 - 04:08 PM
Hang in there and vent away.
Posted 13 February 2012 - 05:00 PM
Posted 14 February 2012 - 06:17 PM
I honestly can hardly remember the details of the first couple of months, only the pure exhaustion and the feeling of helplessness. So as PP have said, take lots of pictures!
Posted 14 February 2012 - 10:24 PM
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Posted 17 February 2012 - 04:11 PM
I remember when the boys were about 5 months old and we were still very sleep deprived and they were getting over a nasty cold. We were standing in line at babies r us and there was another twin mom in front of us. She was very young and had her mom in tow who was the one actually dealing with the twin infants. A pregnant lady asked if it was hard with two and the twin mom who looked very bright eyed, happy, groomed, make up on etc. went on and on about how easy it was with twins how they had been sleeping through the night since they were a month old and it was just easy as could be. I was standing there in clothes that I wore the day before, no shower, no make up, hair barely combed and I truly wanted to smack her. My husband and I looked at each other and rolled our eyes.
It won't necessarily get easier. It will always be challenging BUT you will eventually get more sleep. And honestly that is what makes the huge difference.
Born 1/20/09 at 32 wks 5 days
Logan 3 lbs 10 oz
Connor 3 lbs 9.5 oz
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