[Shohenadel]

I'm not sure why, but we never call Sarah and Rachael, "the twins." Something about the term just rubs me the wrong way. I mean I have no problem with other people calling their own twins, "the twins" but we just haven't really used that term for some reason. I do tell people that I have twins or that they are twins...I just don't refer to them as "the twins." I thought maybe it's because it's like referring to them as a unit, but I don't think that's why it actually bothers me. Because I do tend to call them "the babies" or "the babes" though....which is kind of weird now because they are 3 YEARS OLD!!! ha! ha!!! But I think I'm just avoiding calling them "the twins." You can't really call them "the toddlers" or "the little girls" so I might just call them "the babies" forever! Since we have 4 girls (ages 8, 6 and 3 year old twins) I think they will just always be my babies in my eyes! I know this seems really weird. I was wondering if anyone else has an aversion to this term????


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[danibell]

Nope you are not alone. We call the older ones the big kids (10 and 5), and the twins are the babies. Although now they argue with me about it..."No my not a baby, my big boy/girl!!!!" So I'm not really sure what to call them right now, since they don't like me using babies. Sometimes I'll say the little kids, but usually I say that when i refer to the 3 youngest ones. Like you, I avoid calling them the twins, because they are two individuals, but I still refer to them as a unit! Yes....I feel crazy sometimes! :lol:

[tinalb]

I usually refer to my two as the littles. I hardly ever say the twins although I don't know why. It doesn't really bother me, I just don't say it for some reason.

[miss_bossy18]

Add me to the list. It's always "the girls" here. Don't know why I avoid "the twins".

[cheezewhiz24]

The boys here. I adore that they are twins, but I guess I don't want it to be their only identity.

[Dielle]

Me too. I love that they're twins and have no worries about them having identity issues since they're soooo different. But I never call them the twins. It sounds funny to me. The only time I ever use that phrase is occasionally on here when I'm differentiating between them and the rest of my kids. But the vast majority of they time they're Sydney and Sabrina (and yes almost always in that order) or "the girlies" which is kind of silly since I also have an older daughter.

[kcg24]

I also dislike people referring to them as "the twins". I'm so concerned about people viewing them simply as a unit, especially mt family members. I do call them "the girls" all of the time, but I figure I would do the same even if they were 2 years apart :) If #3 is a girl, then I don't know what we will do!

[itsnancycozzi]

I never really thought about it until reading this thread...but I don't call them the twins and I don't think I ever have.
My DH and I call them the squirts. They used to be the babies but now they are 4 and if you even remotely infer that they are babies, you got corrected.

[becasquared]

I don't call them "the twins" either, but I don't actively dislike calling them "the twins". I do say that they "are" or I "have twins". Since they're our only kids, they're the kids, munchkins, rugrats, or Alice&Royce (one word). Daycare calls them "The twin giraffes" meaning, the set of twins in the giraffe class. Our old daycare called them "the twins", as in "get the twins ready to go home". So I guess when they are referring to them as a unit, they use the term. It really doesn't bug me at all either way.

If I had more children, I might call them "the twins" to differentiate them from the rest, but we'll never know for certain. :lol:

[TwinxesMom]

I never call them the twins to their face but if referring to them I do sometimes. Mostly it's just the girls

[Heathermomof6]

I don't usually refer to my twins as the twins either. I have NO idea why? They are usually ". The girls" or "your sisters" I clump my older kids as the bigs and the younger ones as the littles. To a stranger I will say "my twins"

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[eagleswings216]

I usually say either their names or "the boys". Maybe because we have lots of twins in our family and no one says "the twins"? I'm not sure why "the twins" bothers me, but I guess it feels to me like that lumps them together and makes them sound like one person?

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[twinmom2dana]

Never "the twins". Usually we call them "the boys" and since we've had another, JoJo sometimes gets lumped in there. When referring to all of them, I am known to say "Frick, Frack, Fro, and the other 2" But that's just me...

[cjk2002]

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I also dislike people referring to them as "the twins". I'm so concerned about people viewing them simply as a unit, especially my family members.

That is how I feel about it. Certain members of my DH's family will refer to them as "the twins" and it drives me :gah:

I call them "the or my boys".

[ECUBitzy]

I've never called my girls "the twins." I struggle putting to words why it bothered me, but I've always asked our family and close friends to avoid the term as well.

I guess I just see plenty of opportunity in their future for them to be recognized as twins and I don't want them to feel as if this single term is what defines their individual identities? Does that make sense? Also, I think (based on my childhood) that girls have plenty of other obstacles in developing self esteem, individuality, and confidence without adding another thing to the mix. I'm sure that classmates, teachers, and friends in the future will refer to them as "the twins" but I choose not to.

I call them my girls, the chickens, Alexis and Samantha, and my babies. :)

[Fran27]

'the kids' here. But I can see how sometimes you don't have the choice if you have other kids of the same sex or something. But yes... not too fond of the term, it kinda sucks growing up being one of 'the twins'.

[cheezewhiz24]

ECUBitzy, on 23 February 2012 - 06:57 AM, said:

I've never called my girls "the twins." I struggle putting to words why it bothered me, but I've always asked our family and close friends to avoid the term as well.

I guess I just see plenty of opportunity in their future for them to be recognized as twins and I don't want them to feel as if this single term is what defines their individual identities? Does that make sense? Also, I think (based on my childhood) that girls have plenty of other obstacles in developing self esteem, individuality, and confidence without adding another thing to the mix. I'm sure that classmates, teachers, and friends in the future will refer to them as "the twins" but I choose not to.

I call them my girls, the chickens, Alexis and Samantha, and my babies. :)

Makes sense to me! I think the whole world (pretty much) views them as a set. I don't want to nor do I like it when people close to me do. Just by me always saying their names or the boys I don't have this problem. Close friends and grandparents just sort of follow my example about it. I don't think mine know they are twins at all - just brothers - and see no reason to tell them until they ask. I think they know the term, though, as I'm always answering questions in front of them in public about it.

[Kendra]

Our parents never called us "the twins" (we were/are still "the girls") and mom has actually had to stop and think when people as her how "the twins" are.

And this:

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Daycare calls them "The twin giraffes" meaning, the set of twins in the giraffe class. Our old daycare called them "the twins", as in "get the twins ready to go home". So I guess when they are referring to them as a unit, they use the term. It really doesn't bug me at all either way.

Is my sister's biggest peeve. We both work in day care and she has gone off on co-workers who use "the twins". Of course, now she has one co-worker who gets all stupid about even saying the word "twin" when I'm at her work and the older kids kinda freak about my looking like her. It's not the word its the unit-ing she is objecting to. (right now Connie has 22 month old identicals in her group - they call me "notConnie)

[becasquared]

It's really no different to me if they say "the Lastnames" or "The twin giraffes" or even "Sabrina's twins in her class". Is there really a difference between calling twins "Twins" or "The girls/boys/littles/big kids"? It's all making multiple people into one unit. I don't see how it's really that bad if someone says the twins. It's not something that I do because "the twins" are my boobs, but I don't see what the issue really is. Maybe it's because my two are opposite sex?

[tinalb]

I agree, Bex, unless you are calling them by their individual names all the time, they are still being lumped into a unit, the same as siblings who are not twins tend to get lumped together. I see no harm in it, it is easier to say "the kids" than list 5 names, but it doesn't make any of them less of an individual.