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#1 MichelleL

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Posted 19 March 2012 - 09:45 AM


My parents used to reward us on occasion growinh up for good report cards. It was in incentive for me to try harder as I got older (I wasn't a very good student :blush: ).

My girls just received their second one and it was excellent!! :woohoo: I know it's :db: only :db: Kindergarten but it's a big deal for me because of all my anxiety, as most of you know, about whether or not to send them. They are the youngest in their class.

So I feel like a sign of appreciation for their hard work from us as their parents is in order. :D

Do you reward for a good report card? What sort of things do you do/give?

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Posted 19 March 2012 - 09:54 AM

We don't really reward for good, but we do ground for bad. Let me explain. If I know my child is capable for getting better grades, then she gets in trouble. If I know they worked really hard and still struggled, they will not get in trouble. Make sense? Maybe I should do opposite though. Maybe a reward for good would work better? Hmmmmm.......

Edited to say that it doesn't happen very often, and our grading system is a 1-4 scale. It has happened where one child got a 2 (equivalent to a 70-79) on something like paying attention or not enough effort. Something I KNOW she could control and get better grades on. It's things like that, that truly annoy me.
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Posted 19 March 2012 - 10:14 AM

We give $1.00 per A. Lennon hasn't had anything less than an A yet (he's only in 1st grade, LOL), so we haven't established if there is a "reward" for B's. It isn't much, but just a small token of "Way to go! We are proud of you for working so hard!"

I'm sure the $1.00/A won't mean as much as he gets older. We might have to reward somewhat differently at that point. :)

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Posted 19 March 2012 - 10:51 AM

We celebrate finishing a grade at the end of a year as a family, instead of report cards (since we homeschool). Growing up I got a $1 for A's, but I also knew that my parents would only accept A's, LOL.
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Posted 19 March 2012 - 11:44 AM

We take him out for ice cream to celebrate but we don't pay per grade. At least not right now. Until someone can tell me the difference between M and E, AND why I should want an E because and M means my kid moves on, I am not paying. Especially when E's are unachievable for certain skills. When we get to real grades, I may change our system.
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Posted 19 March 2012 - 12:11 PM

If I know my child is capable for getting better grades, then she gets in trouble. If I know they worked really hard and still struggled, they will not get in trouble. Make sense?



Ditto this.

My DDs are only in 1st. We celebrate and do a lot of verbal acknowledgement when they do well and put forth a good effort, regardless of the 'score' (this goes for various things), but if and when they do poorly on something and did not try, write neatly, turn it in etc-- they get in trouble and/or have to practice. We also ask them how they think they are doing and what is easy/hard and if they did their best on certain assignments, really the process and learning how to learn is important at this age because it instills good work habits. Our school has a 1-4 scale for report cards, it does not seem very helpful to be honest.

Mine are youngest too-- they have a 10/05 Bday. DH and I agonized over doing K (which DDs did not do) or going straight to 1st (which we did). It does change it a bit since some kids in their class will be 8 this spring/summer! My girls will not turn 7 until 6-8 weeks after school starts, they will still be 6 when 2nd grade starts next Fall.

I really dont want to emphasis 'good' grades. DH and I want to emphasis ' do your best' and to ask for help if you dont understand.


I was paid for As & Bs as a student, but it did not affect my grades since I was naturally inclined to try to do well. I got a very poor grade (D) in Chemistry in High School, but my parents understood and helped me the entire semester and I still struggled and I did not get punished at all. I switched teachers and that really did make a difference (teaching style). It got a C in French- and did have to check in with my parents for a semester until it rose to a B because I was not studying or completing some of my work. I graduated with honors and can honestly say that I learned a lot from the few poor grades I did get, I learned how I did (and did not) learn best and also what my own strengths and weaknesses were. Now an elementary age students would not likely gather all that from a report card, but the idea behind working hard and learning from mistakes begins early.

DH got paid for grades and was an average student. It did not make a difference to him since he was honest and said he slacked off a lot- $ four times a year (report cards) did not really make a big impact over 9 months of daily school.

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Posted 19 March 2012 - 04:15 PM

Nope, no rewards. I grew up in a house where if you could do well you were expected to, and if you couldn't but tried, that was fine. Sometimes local restaurants will give a coupon, and occasionally we visit them, but we very rarely eat out. My kids get high fives for a good report card, and it's never been a problem. Besides, the schools pile on rewards (especially food <_< ) for every tiny thing.

ETA: One of mine is 20 and one is a senior in high school (the girls are in third grade), so I'm sure this is the system I'll stick with.

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Posted 19 March 2012 - 05:01 PM

We also don't reward for grades. I want my kids to do their best because it makes them proud, not because of some reward that I give them. We do celebrate a good overall report with a special dinner out, or ice cream, but that is all.
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Posted 19 March 2012 - 05:48 PM

We also don't reward for grades. I want my kids to do their best because it makes them proud, not because of some reward that I give them. We do celebrate a good overall report with a special dinner out, or ice cream, but that is all.


Same here. We usually do something at the end of the year, but not with every report card. I want them to do their best for themselves and not some extrinsic reward. I grew up in a house where my Dad tied paying us for good grades. I was already getting good grades so it was just icing on the cake. It did not make my brother get better grades. DH grew up in a house that didn't expect much of him grade wise and it showed eventhough he's a very intelligent guy and has gone on to get 2 Master's degrees.
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Posted 19 March 2012 - 06:02 PM

We surprised them with dinner and a movie for a very good report card last semester. But we don't have any set reward.
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Posted 19 March 2012 - 06:12 PM

I don't plan on giving them rewards. They did great on their first and I praised them verbally, but like others said, they should get good grades because they can, not for a reward.

Plus I wouldn't want to make one kid feel bad not getting as much $$$ as the other especially if they were working really hard for that B. :pardon: It could be discouraging.
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Posted 19 March 2012 - 06:34 PM

When I was a kid, my sister and I got our own jars of green olives for good grades. We still call them "report card olives" :)

It's different with my kids. Jack has Autism, so he doesn't get grades, and wouldn't understand rewarding them even if he did get a regular report card. With Ally, she does get a little something for a good report card, usually some small toy or whatever she wants at that moment. She brought all of her grades up on the last report card (A- or B+ up to A's) so she got taken out for dinner and a local hockey game.
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Posted 19 March 2012 - 07:28 PM

I don't plan on giving them rewards. They did great on their first and I praised them verbally, but like others said, they should get good grades because they can, not for a reward.

Plus I wouldn't want to make one kid feel bad not getting as much $$$ as the other especially if they were working really hard for that B. :pardon: It could be discouraging.

Nah, I don't think so. If a B were a "good grade" for that child, they would be rewarded. IMO.

We also don't reward for grades. I want my kids to do their best because it makes them proud, not because of some reward that I give them. We do celebrate a good overall report with a special dinner out, or ice cream, but that is all.

That's pretty much what I was thinking of doing.
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Posted 19 March 2012 - 07:32 PM

I'm not thinking along the lines of paying them...but that's just me. My parents used to buy us a little something special we've been wanting, or took us out for ice cream, little things like that. I was thinking of doing the same.

One of my girls has been asking for a particular item. Although I think it's a little pricey of an award for a quarterly report card, I was thinking of maybe an end of the year gift for a wonderful Kindergarten year. :good:

But, you all gave me a lot of food for thought.

Thank you SO MUCH for all the input!! :bow2:
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Posted 19 March 2012 - 07:33 PM

We don't really reward for good, but we do ground for bad. Let me explain. If I know my child is capable for getting better grades, then she gets in trouble. If I know they worked really hard and still struggled, they will not get in trouble. Make sense? Maybe I should do opposite though. Maybe a reward for good would work better? Hmmmmm.......

Edited to say that it doesn't happen very often, and our grading system is a 1-4 scale. It has happened where one child got a 2 (equivalent to a 70-79) on something like paying attention or not enough effort. Something I KNOW she could control and get better grades on. It's things like that, that truly annoy me.

We're on the 1-4 scale also. :good:
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Posted 19 March 2012 - 08:43 PM

We also don't reward for grades. I want my kids to do their best because it makes them proud, not because of some reward that I give them. We do celebrate a good overall report with a special dinner out, or ice cream, but that is all.


This. :good:
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Posted 19 March 2012 - 09:33 PM

I just see rewarding good grades as similar to someone getting a bonus at work (or a raise) for a job well done, I was given money or a toy of my choice within a price range, as a child and I got good grades...not because of the reward but because I was able to and it was expected of me. The rewards were just a fun little perk of to all of my hard work.
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Posted 20 March 2012 - 04:42 AM

I just see rewarding good grades as similar to someone getting a bonus at work (or a raise) for a job well done, I was given money or a toy of my choice within a price range, as a child and I got good grades...not because of the reward but because I was able to and it was expected of me. The rewards were just a fun little perk of to all of my hard work.

I'm on the same page. :good: A little "bonus". :D
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Posted 20 March 2012 - 07:09 AM

I generally got a small monetary "reward" from my grandma - but what my parents would do was a bigger gift for a bigger achievement - like I got a stereo system when I made national honor society in 11th grade, I got a car my senior year (a complete beater that cost $400 but it was still a car!) - we didn't do allowance in my house either, but if I wanted to go to the mall with my friends occasionally they'd give me $10 for lunch and a cassette tape (now I'm REALLY dating myself LOL)...
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Posted 20 March 2012 - 07:17 AM

I generally got a small monetary "reward" from my grandma - but what my parents would do was a bigger gift for a bigger achievement - like I got a stereo system when I made national honor society in 11th grade, I got a car my senior year (a complete beater that cost $400 but it was still a car!) - we didn't do allowance in my house either, but if I wanted to go to the mall with my friends occasionally they'd give me $10 for lunch and a cassette tape (now I'm REALLY dating myself LOL)...

:rofl: Mine would do the same! Wasn't it more exciting when you could stretch the money and buy some cassingles?! :yahoo:
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