[Jamie1]

Hi. I am taking a psychology course in college about twins and my assignment is to write a report about the experience of loosing a twin. Since I am not a twin I have no idea what it would be like so I was hoping a few people would take a few minutes to answer these questions:


How old are you?



What type of twin are you? Were you same sex twins?



How old were you when you lost your twin?




Was it due to natural causes or environmental factors such as an accident?




How close were you and your twin?




What is the hardest part about twin loss?




Do you talk about the loss of your twin or do you try to avoid any conversation about it?




Anything else you feel comfortable adding I would greatly appreciate.





Thanks again

[minmaz]

Jamie1, on 29 October 2007 - 08:01 PM, said:

Hi. I am taking a psychology course in college about twins and my assignment is to write a report about the experience of loosing a twin. Since I am not a twin I have no idea what it would be like so I was hoping a few people would take a few minutes to answer these questions:


How old are you? 61



What type of twin are you? Were you same sex twins? no



How old were you when you lost your twin?59




Was it due to natural causes or environmental factors such as an accident? cancer




How close were you and your twin? exceptionally




What is the hardest part about twin loss?feeling guilty for having a life when they haven't and for all they went through




Do you talk about the loss of your twin or do you try to avoid any conversation about it?i did at first but feel i can't keep doing it and also i have to pretend to be ok for my family




Anything else you feel comfortable adding I would greatly appreciate.i think we might have been a bit unusual in that we never argued and were too close. i remember even at school crying when my brother got into trouble or anything. he had a really hard journey through life and whilst my life hasn't been easy it was always a bit better than his, hence the dreadful feeling of guilt. i am more worried for him than for my loss. it is really devastating.





Thanks again

[bem]

Jamie1, on 29 October 2007 - 09:01 PM, said:

Hi. I am taking a psychology course in college about twins and my assignment is to write a report about the experience of loosing a twin. Since I am not a twin I have no idea what it would be like so I was hoping a few people would take a few minutes to answer these questions:


How old are you? 50



What type of twin are you? Were you same sex twins? identical, both male



How old were you when you lost your twin?16




Was it due to natural causes or environmental factors such as an accident? Auto accident on way to school




How close were you and your twin? closer than to any other person. Alot closer. We could look at each other and know pretty close what the other was thinking, was about to say or how they would react.




What is the hardest part about twin loss? trying to live for two. trying to be okay with it for my family. no one understanding...really understanding what it is like. always feeling detatched to a point from life.




Do you talk about the loss of your twin or do you try to avoid any conversation about it? for 30 years I avoided it. Now I mention it on occassion but do not dwell on the subject and still never express the loss. It's like holding back a tidal wave from hitting people who have no concept of water.




Anything else you feel comfortable adding I would greatly appreciate. It changed my personality because I never dealt with all these things I never understood. Now my personality is formed and I am sorta inept socially because of the high standards I demand of people stemming from the high standards I demand of myself because I am "preforming" for two. I have no real close friends and the only people who really see what I am like inside are my children and siblings. It's a lonely life.





Thanks again