[noahandjacobsmom]

The past month or so I have been really been having a hard time with my patience level with boys. I am truly beginning to feel that maybe after all the years of infertililty and treatments that maybe I am not cut out for motherhood.

The boys are never happy lately. They whine when I leave the room, they fight each other to be next to me, cry at dinner, hard to get down at night and not sleeping through the night. I have tried everything to help them sleep through the night. CIO is not working because Noah was literally on the verge of hyperventalation last night. I know part of it my frustration is I am just truly exhausted. But, I am truly worried because I am honestly getting angry at helpless children.

I know part of it is developmental milestones (trying to walk), cutting teeth, Noah's surgery, seperation anxiety, yada, yada. These are all labels are reasons for the crying, whining non stop all day. But, we have not changed anything in their routine and it does not stop. I just want to find a way to get my happy children back and get myself back to normal.

I am hanging on by a thread here and I am truly worried I am not going to make it before it gets better. I am truly embarassed to be even typing this out but, I figured I would pose the question to see if any other TS members have or are going through this.

So, can a person have PPD when it is almost a year after delivery? Or is it just a rough patch in the journey and it will all pan out?

Thank you in advance for listening to me.

This post has been edited by noahandjacobsmom: 28 June 2007 - 11:50 AM

[Sarah©]

I am right where you are. I don't think its as much PPD as it is the routine and boredom (yes, boredome) of our humdrum lives. Being a mom is not easy and having whinny, crying children day in and day out can really get to ya. All I can say is change it up. Go out by yourself. Make sure you keep your hobbies going. I try to scrapbook at least once a month at a crop night. I also go for coffee and for a movie on weeknights with friends. Do whatever you can to keep your sanity because that's an important piece in child rearing, right??

Seriously though if you think that you are really depressed, you should talk to doc about it too. No harm in talking about it.

[brandycaviness]

I am with you too. Actually, I posted about this a week or so ago in the Health forum. I still have good days and bad days, although I haven't called my dr yet, i did take Sarah's advice and it helped alot.

GL! PM if you want to talk and know that you aren't by yourself.

[AppleDumplings]

My doctor warned me that PPD can hit anytime in the first two years after giving birth. Lucky me, I got it at 2 months after giving birth. I am on Meds and feel like a new person and a much better Mommy! It never hurts to ask your doctor.

[becky5]

Mel, I am so sorry you are feeling bad. I am on meds for depression and still have some days like you are describing, although most days are pretty good(except for this miserable : ( vacation that I am currently on). Call your doc and let them determine whether or not you are depressed. Have you taken the screening in the PPD sticky?

[jennjenn770]

I am so sorry you are going through this! We have been having sleep issues too and it is just starting to get better (their sleeping that is). The sleep issues have been going on for over a month. I don't have to tell you that tired babies are whiny babies ALL DAY long! I was at my wits end last week. They have been so fussy when it comes to eating too. It's like they start crying as soon as I put them in their highchairs. I finally told me DH I had to leave for awhile and took off to a friends house for a couple of hours. I felt sooo much better when I came back. Sometimes you just need a break - time away from everybody. Do you belong to a Mother's of Multiples group? I've been going to the park play dates a couple times a week. I find that getting us out of the house for a bit helps everyone. Plus it's a sanity saver to chat with the other moms.

I hope things get better for you soon! Feel free to PM me if you want to chat.

Jennifer

[cabonnell]

At the risk of sounding cliche, "it really really will get better". I use to pace a path on the floor saying out loud while I balled my eyes out "I can't do this, I just can't do this, I'm not cut out for this, it wasn't suppose to be like this". Well here I am, 26 months afterward. I've obviously done it, but I look back and can't believe it. The hardest thing is realizing how easy things were in my life before the girls came and now it's complete chaos and I can't do anything, I'm overweight now, bad complexion, out of work, yada yada yada. And even after all of that, I wouldn't trade them for the biggest perkiest boobs, flattest stomach, Christie Brinkley complexion, and all the sanity in the world. Oh, and let me add, it gets better ONLY because it gets more manageable and surely that part you know already being that yours are 10 months old. It's gotten more manageable as time has gone by? Yes? It will get better more and more. I don't want to give you a pessimistic point of view but I don't want to say it's blissful, because it's not. It's crazy, but you'll be okay.

This post has been edited by cabonnell: 28 June 2007 - 04:08 PM

[noahandjacobsmom]

I am right where you are. I don't think its as much PPD as it is the routine and boredom (yes, boredome) of our humdrum lives. Being a mom is not easy and having whinny, crying children day in and day out can really get to ya. All I can say is change it up. Go out by yourself. Make sure you keep your hobbies going. I try to scrapbook at least once a month at a crop night. I also go for coffee and for a movie on weeknights with friends. Do whatever you can to keep your sanity because that's an important piece in child rearing, right??

Seriously though if you think that you are really depressed, you should talk to doc about it too. No harm in talking about it.

I do not think it is "clinical depression". I think it is right now I am back to being a SAHM mom until fall teaching term begins. So, it is 24/7 with them not sleeping through the night the past month. Schedules I have not changed.

We have found a girl to come in a few hours a couple of times a week to play with the boys just to take the edge off me so I can do a few things.

My mom is also said she is coming up one day a week to do the boys and let me rest, go out, whatever I need. She thinks it is strain with having two very active multiples that lost their reasoning with sleeping through the night.

So, I have taken steps to get this pulled together. I am just exhausted and every time we go somewhere with the boys and "deviate" from the schedule at all things become difficult for us. So, I will do what I need to do to be the mom they deserve and just pray that this to will pass and it is just a phase.