Issue at School

I have 7 year old identical twin girls.  They are in the first grade and in different classes.  Not far into the new school year I was asked to have a conference with the teachers of both girls.  When I got to school I found out I was to meet with the teachers, principal and counseler.  Needless to say I was surprised and worried. 
 
I was told that both girls were having trouble with reading and their behavior.  I knew we were going have troubles with reading so that was no big surprise.  But I was curious about the behavior issues.  They tell me that the girls are crying at recess when the other doesn't play with them.  I thought they had stopped that behavior since I have not had many issues at home.  Also they were crying in class or refusing to to their work.  I told them that they both had confidence issues and would stop doing something or act out when they couldn't do a new task immediately.  We left the meeting on good terms.
 
At the next conference about a month later.  I was told the girls were improving on their reading but still there was some problems with their behavior.  They are still having the recess issue and still cry in class periodically but it had got better.  The principal then suggested that I take the girls to see a behavior specialist since they are having trouble with socialization.  I told them I would think about it.
 
Twin A is more outgoing that the other but does cry or whine when she doesn't get her way.  I usually just ignore her unless it is something important.  Twin B is very shy and doesn't like to be the center of attention.  If the teacher talks to her when they are doing class work she will get upset to the point that she can't continue her work. 
 
Not sure if I am making any sense.  Would you have them evaluated by a specialist or not?
 
Thanks,
 
 

 

I would. What could it hurt? And if it helps, that's a great thing.

 

I agree with Rachel.  There is no downside to having them checked out.  If it is "normal" behavior, than you are reassured that they are OK.  If there is a problem, then you can get them help.  Also, you have not said much about the reading issues, but they can possibly be interrelated.  Many ideas come to mind, but as you haven't given much information, and I haven't met your girls, I am not going to guess.

 

I would also, sounds like you have been interactive with the school, and I don't think it would hurt to check it out.

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I agree with the PP...I would have them checked out too, it cannot hurt and only help.

 

Can't hurt for them to be evaluated and it may help.

 

I agree with others.
 
It never hurts to get an evaluation to see if there are some strategies to help at school/home.
 
Also, maybe they can work with the school social worker? I know my DDs have been able to talk to the school social worker on an as needed issue for one DD to handle a medical issue with peers and the other DD has some social quirks. It has always been helpful and usually a few small changes make a big difference.

 

I agree with others and would get the evaulation.  I am thinking they will at least give you some tips/pointers of things to do in school and at home to help with their confidence and socialization.
 
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