13 Year Old, when to make her first GYN appointment?

Discussion in 'General' started by twin_trip_mommy, Jul 13, 2012.

  1. twin_trip_mommy

    twin_trip_mommy Well-Known Member

    One of my 13 year olds started her period the other day. She is doing very well with it.

    When she started she came to me and told me "Mama I started my period" I asked her if she needed any help with anything and she did. She could not find the pads. Well I guess i used them all up (oops). I had her find her school backpack and get her pouch I put together for her last year. She shared with me that she was a little scared when it first started but felt better when she told me.

    Today a friend gave me some tops and pocketbooks for my girls and one found a tampon in the zipper part of the purse. Excellent timing. After all the other children went out of the room she asked how the tampon worked. I asked her if she wanted to check it out and we did. I showed her how strong the string was and then we set it in water to see how much they absorb.

    We went to Walmart and bought a box and she is trying them out.

    Okay now for my question. When do I set up a GYN appointment for her? Does she just see our Pedi for now?
  2. becasquared

    becasquared Well-Known Member TS Moderator

    You'll just see the pediatrician for now. In fact, even if there is a gynecological issue (my SIL found this out) it's really hard to find a gynecologist who will see a patient under 17/18.
  3. twin_trip_mommy

    twin_trip_mommy Well-Known Member

    yes I did a search on ask.com last night and again this afternoon. I found from a few of the sites that most would not take them until 18 unless they are sexually active. But then how does the Dr know if the child does not tell the parent? and if they are in good communication with the parent when you get to the obgyn the child goes in alone.

    I am taking a few others in on Mon to the pedi and I will talk to her then about making an appointment for her.

    Thanks for responding
  4. TwinxesMom

    TwinxesMom Well-Known Member

    I went to a gyno early as I was having really heavy periods. He was the same one my mom saw and they put me on bc at like 15-16 so it's not impossible to find one who takes younger kids
  5. AmynTony

    AmynTony Well-Known Member

    unless she has issues with her periods, or you need/want birth control pills I would say minimum of 16...I was 17 the first time and the Dr. didn't ask me if I was sexually active till my mom was out of the room...the doctor always has a nurse with them when in the exam room and parents don't generally go back...
  6. twin_trip_mommy

    twin_trip_mommy Well-Known Member

    I spoke to the Pedi today. She said (as a few here said and as I found on the internet) that she does not need to see a regular GYN until about 16 or 18. I asked if she should douche and she said no just wash with a gentile soap and use a shower wand to be sure everything is rinsed off well. she said she wanted her to get the HPV shot but I am not sure we are going to jump on that right now. I did talk to my daughter about it and why it is considered important but she said she did not think she needed that right now. We will keep talking about it.
  7. Chrissy Nelson

    Chrissy Nelson Well-Known Member

    I did not see a GYN till I was 18. I did have friends that went at 15 or 16. As for douche, I have never done it in my life.
  8. ECUBitzy

    ECUBitzy Well-Known Member

    I went at 15. Yup. It wasn't a bad experience.

    My girls will go at 16 or when they're sexually active (which better be later than 16!).
  9. Dielle

    Dielle Well-Known Member

    I had my first gynecological exam when I was 16, because somehow I managed to get an STD even though I'd never been remotely sexually active (never past first base). I was having some issues with my period, but went to my regular GP for it.

    My DD is 14 and started her period 2 years ago and hasn't had a need to go. I think she'd probably be more comfortable with her pedi (actually the nurse practitioner in the office) that she knows, if it was necessary.
  10. MommyMelissaReturns

    MommyMelissaReturns Well-Known Member

    I was 17 when my Mom took me to her GYN to get on birth control. I was TERRIFIED. Like others have said, I don't see the need before they are 16-18 unless they are having issues or are open to you about being sexually active. I've had to have this talk of course with my oldest, and she hasn't went for her first appt. yet, and says she isn't sexually active (fingers crossed), but she's about to start college, so I think the appt. needs to be made sooner rather than later. I'm not ignorant to the fact that she is probably going to be curious about s-e-x soon. :hush:

    Allison started at 11, and Kimmy will be 11 in December........I sooooo hope she doesn't start until later. It's bad enough with Allison and me having our "friend" around the same time every month!! :wacko:
  11. angelsmom2001

    angelsmom2001 Well-Known Member

    I did not see an OB/GYN until I was pregnant with Andrea. :blush: However I also never saw a pedi. We used a family practitioner who saw all of us for a variety of ailments and health, and would refer us to a specialist if we needed one.

    The only one of my girls that I have gone through this with is Andrea. As far as I know she hasn't seen a GYN, but again because we use a family practitioner. She has been referred to several other specialists, including a dermatologist, a cardiologist, a pulmonologist, and more. She is currently 23 and hasn't been sexually active. That could change but she will likely see the FP first, and if he deems it necessary send her to a GYN.
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  12. NINI H

    NINI H Well-Known Member

    I didn't see a GYN until right before I got married at 23 yrs old.
  13. mamabear5

    mamabear5 Well-Known Member

    According to our md my dd who is 12 and has her Aunt Flo visits, will only need to have her paps and pelvics starting at 22 unless there is problems and or she becomes sexually active. If I have questions or if my dd has questions we talk to my midwife who is a naturalpathic midwife.
    She has helped with the spikes in her hormones, dd is super sensitive to hormones like I am.
    The natural stuff has so many less side effect then birth control.
  14. Aeliza

    Aeliza Well-Known Member

    I didn't see a GYN until I was just turning 18. I had a serious boyfriend and my mother was worried we'd do something without protection. Not that I ever would have, but Moms worry. I get that. So she wanted me on the BCP and so got me a GYN at that time. No need to get a GYN until sexually active or legally allowed to be or needed one for health concerns such as very heavy periods (which I had but my mother ignored), painful cramps, or other possible problems that may come along with the monthly cycle.
    I heard douching is actually not that good for you. The douche liquid dries up the natural moisture the girly bits produce in order to self clean. I know my GYN does not recommend it. Regular washing is all that is needed.
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