Won't go anywhere alone

Discussion in 'Childhood and Beyond (4+)' started by MusicalAli, Sep 8, 2010.

  1. MusicalAli

    MusicalAli Well-Known Member

    The twins seem petrified to go anywhere by themselves. Upstairs, downstairs, outside in the yard. If someone has to use the bathroom and the 1st floor one is occupied, he will refuse to go upstairs to use that bathroom. If I ask one to go downstairs (finished basement) to get his shoes, I get a crying tantrum about how he can't go down alone. If they are outside playing and one needs to come in, they're both in because the other can't be alone. If we're all outside and one needs to use the bathroom (or whatever) it's another crying tantrum about how he can't go inside by himself. AHHH. Anyone else? Suggestions as to how to deal?
  2. TwinxesMom

    TwinxesMom Well-Known Member

    Jessy is this way but only sporadically. Shell be playing by herself and then all the sudden she's at my feet begging her sister to play with her. I always tell her to either go find something else to do or come play where we are( tonights problem was jazz and I were watching Americas got talent). Does he have an explanation of why he is scared to go places by himself? Jessy is afraid of the dark but her chuchi is helping
  3. Minette

    Minette Well-Known Member

    Mine have gone through various fearful phases recently (they're only a few months younger than yours). They hate being alone and being left behind. Fortunately our house is one floor, so at least we don't have that issue. But when we get home from school, Sarah always has to pee, and I have to open the front door, shoo both kids into the house (because Amy will scream if I leave her in the yard), then escort Sarah into the bathroom.

    I actually still hate walking into a dark house (or even a dark room) by myself, and I wouldn't go into my parents' basement by myself until I was at least a teenager. So, their fear may be a little more drastic, but I can sort of understand it.

    However, Amy seems to have no problem bolting OUT the front door by herself, if she has a sudden burning need to say hi to the neighbors. :rolleyes:
  4. CCJN

    CCJN Well-Known Member

    Only one of my guys is like that but he is also a few years older. When he was 4 or 5 we never noticed him having issues about going places alone he started it around first grade and in second got worse. He won't go anywhere alone -his room, the bathroom, kitchen, upstairs, it is definitely more of an issue when he is tired. I asked the pediatrician at their 8yr check up and he said some kids are just like that and he should grow out of it. I think it has improved a little over the last month. It's hard because he will say he is scared but can't really say of what. So pedi suggested to just not make huge deal about it and as long as it wasnt affecting his day to day life (still goes out, school, places) not to worry about it.
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