You are now holding the title of a “twin mom” and you should be proud of it. But while you probably think that your experience is no different than that of a mom of one, you might want to think twice.
Don’t get me wrong, it’s an absolute blessing to be able to raise twins or multiples, but with that come a number of challenges that you need to face, especially as a new mother of twins. We are here to prepare you for the successful upbringing of your newborn twins, and equip you with all the tips and tricks you will need to survive as a new twin mom. You’ve got this, momma!
The Bittersweet Reality of Being a Twin Mom
Your twin pregnancy has probably already given you a taste of what having twins is like. Most moms of multiples experience quite a challenging pregnancy that is unlike any other singleton pregnancy. Not only that you’re having double the symptoms, but it’s also likely that you’ve had some sort of a complication, the most common of which is preterm labor.
Now that your babies are out of your womb it’s time to face the bittersweet reality of being a twin mom. The first ordeal you will face is isolation. Not because you don’t have the time and capacity to leave the house, but simply because you feel like you need to be good at this. You think that you are the chosen one and destined to be an impeccable twin mom. You are so determined to do this right that you keep refusing help from friends and family when you desperately need it.
It comes by no surprise that most mothers of twins or multiples are a stay-at-home-mom. Unless your job allows it or you and your husband are comfortable with working opposite shifts, there is pretty much no way you could be away from your babies for even a minute. With day care being so pricey, very few parents will be able to afford it, plus you will want to be as close as possible to your newborns.
But if only you leave your ego aside and let the help in, you will see a significant improvement in your mood, your manageability, and you might even have a spare minute or two for yourself to keep your sanity intact. Remember, you are not alone in this.
Tandem Twins Upbringing is the Key to Success
Getting your newborn twins on the same feeding, sleeping and pooping schedule is far from easy, but without it, you are pretty much lost. It’s especially important that you follow strictly the schedule you develop for your babies for the first year.
This will not only give you a sense of organization knowing that you have the heads-up for your twins’ next move, but it will also make the reach of some of the most important landarks easier. I’m talking about breastfeeding, sleeping and potty training: the three biggest challenges for any twin mom.
There are tons of tools to help you master the tandem upbringing. For example, the My Brest Friend Supportive Nursing Pillow for Twins is specifically designed to accommodate two babies at once so that you can tandem breastfeed them together. A common problem with tandem feeding is back pain caused by leaning forward when your twins are latching, and the My Best Friend Pillow can significantly help you with that. Once you’ve mastered tandem breastfeeding, getting your twins sleep-trained and potty-trained will feel like a walk in the park.
Make Time for Yourself
One thing you shouldn’t do as a twin mom is neglect your personal time. We talked about the “isolation syndrome” already, but even if you can’t or don’t want to go out of the house, you can still dedicate some time for yourself.
Ask your partner to look after the babies and you can have a little date with yourself where you do your most favorite activities: read a book, dance to some funky music, or simply sunbathe in the sun in your garden – this is your time and it’s totally up to you what you do with it.
Why don’t you get yourself the Lost In The Moment Sanctuary Spa Set, which contains bubble bath, salt scrub, hand cream, heel balm and face mask to help you get lost in the moment with Sanctuary elegant box of indulgent skincare and body treats that will leave you wishing for a few more moments of “me time”? And make sure that no one disturbs you with the DO NOT DISTURB I’M DISTURBED ENOUGH AS IT IS! Hanging Metal Sign.
Expecting Parents: Quotes to Lift up Your Spirit
What better way to learn how to survive as a twin mom than taking advice from mothers of twins or multiples who have already walked the path of twin parenthood. We’ve gathered some of the most valuable advice from twin moms, so that you can get the right kind of guidance.
“Twice the love, half the sleep” – Back on the topic, being sleep-deprived when having twins is pretty much a must.
“There’s two to wash, two to dry; There’s two who argue, two who cry; There’s two to kiss, two to hug; and best of all, there’s two to love” – This quote perfectly captures the bittersweet reality of raising twins: you get double-trouble, but also double the love.
“Twins are more than just friends. They are more like a very small gang” – or as we like to say, they’re best friends. Our Best Friends Twins Onesie encapsulates that saying. It’s perfect for cute family photos, celebrations, or even just for fun while at home. It’s also one of the best twin mom gifts you can get if you’re looking for one.
“Sometimes miracles come in pairs” – Yet another catchy slogan that we have incorporated into one of our favorite onesies – The Miracle Twins Onesie, which reads “Sometimes when you wish for a miracle – You get two”. Go ahead and grab yours for you will love it so much.
“Being a mother of twins is learning about strengths you didn’t know you had and dealing with fears you didn’t know existed” – Finishing off on a good note, being a twin parent builds up your character, and it’s also one of the loveliest feelings in the world. Embrace all the love, twin mom!
New Twin Mom: Welcome to Our Community
Welcome to the pack of new twin moms. This is the one thing you should remember as a twin mom – you’re not alone in this. There are many women who have walked the path of twin parenthood and are here to guide you. We’ve gathered the best advice from experienced mothers of multiples to help you navigate your way. It might seem scary at first, but with time the love you feel for your babies will counteract any concerns you might have. In the end, the discomfort will be a distant memory and you can proudly call yourself a hero!